Nanowrimo 2020

Majestic Wife and I try to participate in NaNoWriMo every year, that is National Novel Writing Month for you non-participants! This will be our second year competing against each other… nothing like a little friendly competition to spice up the relationship.

Each year you need to write a new story and you can’t actually start writing it until November 1st. The goal is to write 50,000 words and there are prizes, but I don’t know what they are because I have never finished, lol.

Last year was unsuccessful, more so for me than the Majestic Wife, I finished NaNoWriMo with right around 3000 words and I think she topped it off at around 9000-10000. Part of this was due to a lot of things going on right before the end of the year but we are hunkering down and give it the good ole what for!

So with this years just around the corner we have been a bit more serious about it and have already started planning for this November. I have decided to write a prequel to the novel I started this year and Majestic Wife has decided to write an original.

I also thought it would be kinda fun to again keep track of our progress and do a blog every few days maybe with some excerpts as well as updates on our progress.

This is gonna be a fairly short blog as a basis but I’m gonna go ahead and just post the link for NaNoWriMo if you wanna sign up and try writing your own novel this year!

Click here for the link to NaNoWriMo! We don’t get anything for you clicking on that link but if you also wanna post your progress along with us we would absolutely love to read what everyone is doing! You can add us as buddies; I am Struddless and Majestic Wife is MrsBMalicki.

If you have some time to swing by during the month of November on my stream I’ll be doing writing over there with the Majestic wife so you can hang out with us and chat! The streams link is here!

I have been neutered!

So after my wife and I had our third child we took a look at our lives and realized there was nothing left to do.  We had reached that perfect level, our amazing family of four was complimented by adding our wildest and probably most rambunctious little one.

We sat and had a long…

looooooooooooong…

loooooooooooooooooooong…talk.

When I say long talk it was basically “alright we had Tobias that’s it we’re done.”

So the next step was to ensure we didn’t add more skin babies to the family and thus we come to a story of me getting snipped. The snipping of 2020 as it shall be known.

So Thursday I had my appointment to get the vasectomy done. I took a valium about an hour before the procedure. My majestic wife drove me to the office and back I went.

Waiting in the lobby

I was not expecting the feeling in my stomach, as most guys know any hit, punch, accidental tug makes your stomach turn. Well even with being numb down there you can 100% feel it in your stomach and when he tugged I almost threw up! Stronger stomach prevailed and I was good after that.

The recovery hasn’t been bad but I was extremely sore and passed out right at around 7 last night and didn’t wake up until about 7:40 this morning when my wife came to check on me.

So now I’m sitting on the couch, watching the first Cars movie with my youngest before my wife starts the errands. So I’m planning on doing some writing while I recover and maybe one or two updates since cant really do much.

My wife asked if I needed anything while she was out;Of course I asked for ice cream. She wanted to know what flavor I said it didnt matter it was for my balls. <—— name that movie!! (line might not be exactly the same)

So see you guys soon and remember always spay and neuter!!!

Youtube and Livestream

Hello Everyone,

So as you guys may or may not already know I am the husband to the Majestic Wife. (You’re the best) We have long since talked of a few different ways we can do things together and one of the things we have discussed doing was a family Variety Youtube Channel as well as doing a Livestream for various things we could do together. Right now we have a few highlights as well as gameplay for one of my favorite games: League of Legends, I’ve been playing ranked since season 4. This year I’d like to do something different with not only season 10 but the 2020 year and track and talk about the games that I play to see if I can do better than before. Also what’s more fun than taking you guys on the adventure with me!

So if you’d like to join me on the adventure as well as enjoy other videos and fun things we post come follow us on youtube at: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm0NE_M-KlrzjPbPtXfVFDQ

Some of the videos we’ve done so far on the gaming side with plenty more to come:

And the Livestream here: http://twitch.tv/struddles

I will be streaming Saturday starting at 7:00 PM EST on 1/9/2020 so come join for some fun!

We are hoping to grow and have some fun while doing so as well as doing more with you our followers and community so please join us while we have fun doing things together!

NaNoWriMo Part 2

So one of the things that we were trying to do in regards to the writing progress was compete with each other to push ourselves to make sure we finished. Well we partially failed in that attempt. Life struck out and we got busy from our daughters first Lyra Hoop classes (sp?). My wife will probably correct me on spelling there as well as our son going to his first day of Karate. I must say we did happen to get busier than we were expecting.

So with roughly half of the month gone I’m right at around 3200 words and my wife is at around 5300 out of 50,000. We decided we would continue writing and keep working on each of our Novels outside of NaNoWriMo as well. We both feel it’s a great way for us to do things together from reading each of our stories to bouncing ideas off each other and if you guys want we might even post a little snippet on here so you can tell us what you think!

PS: Majestic Wife the month isn’t over and I still might beat you also she got me Oreos!

Bonus Dad not Step Dad

So I have never posted on here before but I have always spoke with my wife about supporting her in all of her endeavors so lets jump into the deep end, swimsuit tied and floaties left quite securely in the pool bag. Don’t worry that will probably be the only swimming reference you’ll get from me. I’m not entirely certain but we’ll see where the words take us!

I never really realized growing up what it actually meant to be a parent let alone step parent. After meeting my wife and her amazing kids I was still a bit lost and honestly the stigma to it all is a bit daunting. I personally felt very lost and confused when trying to find my place in the family dynamic and it took me a bit of time. Am I the stern parent, am I the loving playful one, do I cry when they do, am I stoic and steadfast, do I steal their cookies when they aren’t looking because Oreo’s are god’s gift to earth and the fact that my wife refuse’s to buy me a separate box (trying to be healthy) means I can never have them to myself which honestly just unfair……. Moving on……

I searched for a few hours online trying to find things that would help me in this, and there are books and information out there for everyone, New Dads, New Moms, Teenagers, there is even an entire series of books for dummies that can teach you a basic understanding of just about anything not to mention a slew of information on youtube and so many other places. All of it felt a bit distant and I didn’t really know what worked for me.

I’ll be honest:

IT WAS TOUGH.

Where do I find the owner’s manual, is there a guide book I can find online for this and please someone give me the cheat codes to make my daughter stop rolling her eyes so hard her heads gonna fall off. I will say that’s the one thing I embraced before anything else. I grew up in a divorced household where my parents treated me and my brother amazingly. Both parent’s did everything they could to be in our lives and that’s what I want for our kids.

What that meant to me was if our son wants to play with his LEGO sets… you better believe I was there with him building them. If my daughter wants to paint my nails… you better believe I’m going to work with the most glitter covered toe nails you’d ever see. If my son wants to play Minecraft… we are gonna marathon that until we slay the Ender Dragon. And when my daughter wants to see if she can cover my head (beard included) with bows… you best believe that’s gonna happen.

So I guess in the grand scheme of things it really comes to this:

I’m a step-dad because I am not their biological dad, I’m their partner in their games, and I’m their dress up doll when they want to try new styles. I’m stern when it’s bed time, I’m loving when they are sad. I love watching them succeed and I’ll always pick them up when they fail. I wasn’t there from the beginning but I’ll be there until my end.

So as the new terminology takes hold I guess I’m a Bonus Dad after all.

P.S. Majestic Glorious Wife can I please have some Oreo’s