Screenshots worth 1000 words

So I have a lot going on in my life currently, mom, starting a business, house, work, weightloss, wife, pet mom, friend, daughter and the list continues.

Sometimes I have a hard time keeping track of my life. I have a dry erase calendar that I write things, apts, parent teacher conferences, trips on but that isn’t enough.

One thing that I do to help keep my life in order is take screenshots of things that I have to do, remember, look up, laugh at, share with my husband.

These are some of the ones I plan to keep, some of them are Christmas ideas, murder mystery podcasts to check out, diet ideas to look up or try. The tattoo is a response to my sister, letting her know which one I thought was the best. Where to find renaissance festival coupons, measurements in cm for Wish presents. And of course my Hogwarts house, because that’s just important to know.

These are how I keep my life in order. I go through once or twice a week and clean out the ones I don’t need anymore.

I was recently at a meal prep party and I mentioned that is how kept my life in order; to my surprise another mom chimed in that she does the same thing!!

It’s funny that the comment made me feel so justified in my actions, but in retrospect… it isn’t really.

Moms are so hard on themselves, we hold ourselves to such a ridiculous standard and it’s nice when someone else does something as weird as organizing our life with screenshots.

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Bonus Dad not Step Dad

So I have never posted on here before but I have always spoke with my wife about supporting her in all of her endeavors so lets jump into the deep end, swimsuit tied and floaties left quite securely in the pool bag. Don’t worry that will probably be the only swimming reference you’ll get from me. I’m not entirely certain but we’ll see where the words take us!

I never really realized growing up what it actually meant to be a parent let alone step parent. After meeting my wife and her amazing kids I was still a bit lost and honestly the stigma to it all is a bit daunting. I personally felt very lost and confused when trying to find my place in the family dynamic and it took me a bit of time. Am I the stern parent, am I the loving playful one, do I cry when they do, am I stoic and steadfast, do I steal their cookies when they aren’t looking because Oreo’s are god’s gift to earth and the fact that my wife refuse’s to buy me a separate box (trying to be healthy) means I can never have them to myself which honestly just unfair……. Moving on……

I searched for a few hours online trying to find things that would help me in this, and there are books and information out there for everyone, New Dads, New Moms, Teenagers, there is even an entire series of books for dummies that can teach you a basic understanding of just about anything not to mention a slew of information on youtube and so many other places. All of it felt a bit distant and I didn’t really know what worked for me.

I’ll be honest:

IT WAS TOUGH.

Where do I find the owner’s manual, is there a guide book I can find online for this and please someone give me the cheat codes to make my daughter stop rolling her eyes so hard her heads gonna fall off. I will say that’s the one thing I embraced before anything else. I grew up in a divorced household where my parents treated me and my brother amazingly. Both parent’s did everything they could to be in our lives and that’s what I want for our kids.

What that meant to me was if our son wants to play with his LEGO sets… you better believe I was there with him building them. If my daughter wants to paint my nails… you better believe I’m going to work with the most glitter covered toe nails you’d ever see. If my son wants to play Minecraft… we are gonna marathon that until we slay the Ender Dragon. And when my daughter wants to see if she can cover my head (beard included) with bows… you best believe that’s gonna happen.

So I guess in the grand scheme of things it really comes to this:

I’m a step-dad because I am not their biological dad, I’m their partner in their games, and I’m their dress up doll when they want to try new styles. I’m stern when it’s bed time, I’m loving when they are sad. I love watching them succeed and I’ll always pick them up when they fail. I wasn’t there from the beginning but I’ll be there until my end.

So as the new terminology takes hold I guess I’m a Bonus Dad after all.

P.S. Majestic Glorious Wife can I please have some Oreo’s

The Inbetween

I realize that’s not a real word.

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted a blog and I’ve been feeling guilty about it! I really enjoy taking time out to write these and I’ve been working on the same blog for over a week and it just isn’t right yet.

This past month has been so busy for me it’s hard to concentrate on writing right now.

August is the home of our anniversaries (marriage and dating), both of our birthdays (husband and mine) and back to school for the kids. So we’ve been busy!

The business received several orders for artworks, signs and coasters.

I started working out 2-3 times a week with other moms (I am not a social person so that’s new to me). In the same category, I’ve been talking to the moms at the kids bus stop. I am almost considering a girls night out with them… but it may be too soon.

I got put back on meds for anxiety and depression, that is an ongoing adventure that’s getting a blog for sure!

I’ve been working some weekends cleaning houses, which is ironic because my house is usually a MESS!

My sister is talking to me again! I thought she was mad at me… I tend to say really stupid/hurtful things and usually not on purpose so I was really worried I did it again… but she was just busy (so she wasn’t really not speaking to me, but I felt unspoken to) .

Life has been pretty great lately, I’m feeling proud of myself for everything that I’ve got going on and the meds are working so well that I’m not worried about the other shoe dropping!