Nanowrimo 2020

Majestic Wife and I try to participate in NaNoWriMo every year, that is National Novel Writing Month for you non-participants! This will be our second year competing against each other… nothing like a little friendly competition to spice up the relationship.

Each year you need to write a new story and you can’t actually start writing it until November 1st. The goal is to write 50,000 words and there are prizes, but I don’t know what they are because I have never finished, lol.

Last year was unsuccessful, more so for me than the Majestic Wife, I finished NaNoWriMo with right around 3000 words and I think she topped it off at around 9000-10000. Part of this was due to a lot of things going on right before the end of the year but we are hunkering down and give it the good ole what for!

So with this years just around the corner we have been a bit more serious about it and have already started planning for this November. I have decided to write a prequel to the novel I started this year and Majestic Wife has decided to write an original.

I also thought it would be kinda fun to again keep track of our progress and do a blog every few days maybe with some excerpts as well as updates on our progress.

This is gonna be a fairly short blog as a basis but I’m gonna go ahead and just post the link for NaNoWriMo if you wanna sign up and try writing your own novel this year!

Click here for the link to NaNoWriMo! We don’t get anything for you clicking on that link but if you also wanna post your progress along with us we would absolutely love to read what everyone is doing! You can add us as buddies; I am Struddless and Majestic Wife is MrsBMalicki.

If you have some time to swing by during the month of November on my stream I’ll be doing writing over there with the Majestic wife so you can hang out with us and chat! The streams link is here!

Keeping “you”rself in motherhood

A post has caught my attention on Facebook. It is about a mom who finally has some free time without husband or kids and she doesn’t know what to do with herself.

What is fun to a mom?

Mothers tend to make ourselves martyrs. It is a harsh truth, but it is a truth none the less. We spend our entire life taking care of others and barely give ourselves 5 minutes of free time. It is “expected” of us, sort of… but not really.

We, as mothers tend to put so much pressure on ourselves because we want to keep up with what other moms are doing; or seem to be doing on social media. Working moms will spend any free minute they have “making up” the time they spend away from their kids. Stay at home moms’ lives literally revolve around the home and family, so we try to make sure we are “earning our keep” so to speak.

We want to make sure that we are not being out done by our friends on Facebook or we are constantly trying to be as good as our God of a mother…. I seriously will put myself in an early grave trying to be as good of a mom/wife as my mom.

I was reading an honest post of a mom on one of my homeschool groups talking about everything that she has to do every day and asking how we all do it. I commented that I cry a lot in the shower (which is only a small exaggeration) while others expressed sympathy but said they were also barely holding it together. One mom had the “audacity” to say that she actually gives herself free time…. what the hell(lol)?? Other moms were not nice to her and once again WHY????

Why do we as women/moms not allow ourselves to just chill the eff out sometimes? And why would you get upset that someone else ACTUALLY takes care of themselves? Is it just jealousy that you feel you can’t do that or do you not know how.

I forget sometimes to take care of myself, I forget to eat (how am I obese), I forget to shower, I forget to change my clothes, I forget that I am allowed to have emotions, I forget that I was a human before kids and so I am allowed to be a human still. Some of my things are also because of depression, but sometimes they are both.

I can’t tell another mom what to do to relax. But I came up with a list of things I like to do to keep “Bonnie” in my life.

I play Sims. I love that damn video game.

I send my kids to their room for some “mommy time” and I watch movies or TV shows that they can’t watch.

I listen/ read books.

I blog or write… I LOVE TO WRITE.

I craft, so many things.

I plan different things, diets, exercise plans, decorations for whatever holiday, trips that we will probably never take.

I take a shower, shave and yes, sometimes I really do cry.

Sometimes I do nothing. I just sit on the couch and do literally nothing.

These are just some of the things that I do to keep my old self in my new life. I think that it is so important to remember that we are individuals outside of being a mom.

To the wonderful moms that comment on my blog, I always appreciate your opinions and advice. What do you do to keep your mental health? Do you take time our for yourself? Do you sometimes forget?

Sleuth Saturday

Introducing Bonnie’s Book Club!! We will be discussing the different books that I am reading/listening to.

My goal is to post 2 books a month, one on Saturday, which will specifically be a Sherlock Holmes story and then another book on a Weds. I will share ahead of time which book will be discussing so if you want to read it with me!

As previously blogged, I have become an Amazon associate, so certain blogs will have links and if you purchase from my link I will receive a small percentage. I will share where I got the book, library, Amazon, Facebook Marketplace. Goodwill, or my mom.

I have also joined Audible because being a busy mom sometimes sitting down and reading a book is difficult, BUT letting my echo dot read the book out loud while I clean is SUPER EASY!! So audible is $14.99 a month and they give you a free audiobook!! So of course I bought the Complete Stories of Sherlock Holmes and saved almost $50.

One thing that I don’t necessarily love is not being able to see the words when I am actually sitting down and listening…. I KNOW… never satisfied. But I bought my husband this book from Barnes and Noble a couple of years ago so I read along sometimes.

SO today we are talking about A Study in Scarlet, originally published in 1887. This is the first story where John Watson meets Sherlock Holmes and follows him around while Sherlock solves a crime. This is a two part story; the first part consists of Sherlock solving the crime and the second part explains why the murders happened at all. The first time I listened to the story I was very confused because the story was happening in England and then all of a sudden we are listening to two dying people in the desert.

If you are going to read the story and want to be surprised you should stop reading now. I will be revealing all.

Have you stopped reading???

Ok so the murdered in this story is a cabbie, he is avenging the lives of his love and her father!

Lucy and John Ferrier were stranded in the desert and dying when a caravan of displaced Mormons happened upon them. With the promise of following their religion and rules the Mormons saved them both and brought them to their promised land (Utah). John Ferrier (the father) thrived in Utah and became a very rich man, but he never really believed in the Mormon religion. His daughter Lucy falls in love with a man, Jefferson Hope, who is not a Mormon and they become engaged.

When word spreads that Lucy is engaged to be wed to a “gentile” Ferrier is visited by the prophet or chief of their village and is told that his daughter will chose between 2 Mormon men (sons of the Holy Four). Though violence and death are not spoken directly it is implied.

Trying to save his daughter from a miserable arranged marriage they both escape with Jefferson Hope, trying to get to Nevada. They have to take an extremely perilous journey and unfortunately the Mormons catch up to them while Jefferson Hope is hunting for food. They kill John Ferrier immediately and take Lucy back to Salt Lake City, she is forced to marry one of the sons of the elders and within a month she is dead.

Jefferson Hope is obviously enraged and tries to kill the two men most responsible for his anguish several times. They both live in fear for years, they actually leave the Mormon church and head back East. Jefferson Hope has to abandon his vengeance mission for several years but he starts stalking them. He finds them by accident but he is immediately recognized and the two men flee. Hope’s search for the men takes years, over 2 continents and many countries.

He finally gets them in England. First he finds the man who married his Lucy just for her father’s fortune and did nothing to prevent her death. He gives the man a pill after revealing who he was. The man dies of poison in an abandoned home, with only his murderer to watch. Hope then finds the other man, who actually killed John Ferrier, at his hotel. Hope wakes him up early in the morning with a knife to his throat and tries to give him the poison, but a fight ensure and he is stabbed to death instead.

Sherlock Holmes had of course figured out the “how” of the murders before we are even introduced to Jefferson Hope and John and Lucy Ferrier. He actually kills a dying dog to prove his point…. probably a normal thing back in 1887. He even knows the “who” and tricks the cabbie into coming to his flat with 2 policeman there so he can be arrested.

Jefferson Hope is arrested but is never punished for the crimes he committed though, he dies of a aneurism that very night in jail.

So that is the story, greatly abridged, but that is the basis of what happens. I really enjoyed reading how Holmes’ mind works and meeting characters I am familiar with from the TV show and the movies.

On October 7th I will be talking about A Simple Favor, both the movie and the book. On October 24th we will talk about The Hound of Baskerville.

You can click this link to sign up for a free 30-day trial with Audible and get a free audiobook that you get to keep even if you don’t sign up for the full membership! And if you upgrade to the Premium Plus you get one audiobook a month!

The book is called ‘The Complete Stories of Sherlock Holmes’ so you can listen along with me!

Click this link for the Physical Book!

Click this link for the Audiobook if you already have audible!

My favorite topic

It really isn’t my favorite, but I think I write about it the most.

I have started an exercise program AGAIN…. I will have to go through my blogs to count the number that mention me losing weight or working out. I know it is a lot and as much as I try to pretend that I am ok looking the way I do, I AM NOT…..

So a couple of weeks ago my husband and I went to the vineyard where we were married. It was our first time back and I got dressed up, I wanted to look nice! I put on this blue dress that always made me feel beautiful(skinny) and I put makeup on(I don’t normally). I was dressed to the nines!! I felt amazing and I asked my husband to take pictures of me, I don’t have many pictures of me looking nice.

I thought I was looking great

He sent me the pictures a few days later and the happy bubble that I had created for myself popped. I burst into tears and I started throwing a pity party for myself. I really looked at myself in the mirror and…. gross.

SO once again I am trying working out to lose my belly, back, arm, thigh and any other body part fat. I have started LIIFT4 from Beachbody. I was doing this before I broke my toe in July and I loved it! I have doubled the weight I was using so it is much harder, but I am praying that it will be worth it. I have not gotten to the point where I love working out or crave it like a drug, but I am pushing through the sore muscles and fatigue. My bigger kids are being really supportive and they have done the workouts with me and have tried to help me out around the house because I am exhausted.

My self worth does…

I keep hoping that I can stick with the program because I need to feel better about myself. I know that my¬† worth isn’t in how I look, but I don’t really care. I want to fit in my clothes, I want to look at pictures of myself and not want to puke, I want to be proud of myself again and I want to be strong! When my husband tells me that I am beautiful I want to believe him.

I am aware that the skinny brat (who thought she was fat) I was before kids is gone, but I would like that fat lump of lard that has replaced her to disappear a little too, lol. This is said with lighthearted intent.

I have filled my phone with motivation

Have you ever lost a large amount of weight? Or finished something that you started multiple times?

Apologies

I haven’t posted a blog in awhile, but I’ve been collecting content for plenty of them. Over the next few days I’m going to be mass posting to

A. Make up for lost time

2. Help calm me down.. because I am NOT okay this holiday season.

So to my subscribers I apologize for the mass of notifications you will get but I hope you enjoy reading my shenanigans, anecdotes and stories.