NaNoWriMo Part 1 – How I’m planning my novel with World Anvil!!!

As we prepare for NanoWriMo, I am talking about what resource I use to plan out a fantasy novel.

So I have never completed a NaNoWriMo in its entirety, one the hardest struggles has been running out of ideas and direction.

I have found the easiest thing for me is planning out what I want to write about.

I found a platform that I use which makes planning things easier and it has so many functions from character/world building to options for writing in the platform and it’s even something where you can use it for fantasy table top role playing games (ex. D&D).

World Anvil has been a huge help with world building and allowing me to write things and connect them to each other (I’m not getting paid anything to promote them). You can have various categories/sub categories/articles and each of these allow you to further break them down into various sub sections. For someone like me whose writing a fantasy novel this is like God’s gift to earth!

These are the various articles you can have and they can be connected into a ton of different things including who might run a country, where these buildings are and so many other things.

Here’s the kicker it even has a built in manuscript section that works just like Microsoft Word and since it’s all built into the system you can literally tab between writing, to your character articles and then back to writing all over again. This is extremely robust and it makes writing so much easier because it’s all in one place.

The last thing about this that makes it so appealing is you can also upload files/images/roleplay. This is just as awesome for fantasy world building as well especially regarding table top RPG’s. It really is perfect for planning and all around great for making sure you can build something and allow yourself to plan out what and how you’re going to do this.

So if you want to check it out it’s pretty cool and pretty exciting to use. I plan on using this all through NaNoWriMo and again me and the majestic wife will be on twitch streaming as we write and talking about what we’re writing about. We hope you’ll join us and come hang out when we start writing in November! The channel is here.

This Week

I’ve been watching the Sex and the City movies the last few days. It takes me more than one day to finish them because I have kids and they are SUPER inappropriate. I have to stop them every time the kids come in the room.

It’s 7am and no body is awake yet! That is basically unheard of in this.  house, all 3 kids are early risers.

Usually I use this time to clean because I have 3 kids and my house is always a mess, but today I decided to give myself a break. I’m eating Fruity Pebble knock offs and I’m watching an adult movie that I don’t have to pause every 5 minutes…

There is heaven on Earth.

I kid, lol. I probably gained 5 lbs from one bowl of cereal and my house is still a mess so not really heaven.

This week is a typical one, school, organized playdates, lyra, judo/jujitsu/kickboxing, laundry, cleaning, cooking, scheduling doctor’s appointments, finishing a piece for a customer and all the other things I add to my life unnecessarily. And all of these are done on broken toes. 3 broken toes.

Yeah… 3 on two feet. Long story short, I rebroke the toes that I broke this summer and then broke a toe on my other foot by trying to protect my already broken toes and dropping a heavy metal object on ANOTHER toe. And let me tell you what… they HURT. They hurt more this time than they did last time.

Some of the unnecessary things I have added to my list, my DIY Halloween decorations and a blog about them, we make crafts for a hospice(this is extra but in my opinion necessary), NaNoWriMo(but I LOVE IT) and walking a 5k… plans were made before my toes decided to look like pudding, and VOTING!!

These are some of the things I have added to my plate and though they are not actually necessary, I WANT to do them.

The problem that I face is because I WANT to do them they get pushed back to the background OR what I have done this week ignore some of the things like cleaning to do them. I don’t have enough time in my life, haha.

Making a ghost with cheesecloth
A different way to make a ghost
Cute crafts
My customers piece
Trying to make hot chocolate bombs!
Performed my civic duty

I said duty…

Have a great weekend! What do you guys have planned

Prime Day

Christmas shopping has started in our household. Thanks to Prime Day!!

I can’t go into what I bought my husband but I can talk about the kids. Well mostly Kenz benefited from Prime Day shopping.

She is already struggling between a girl and a young woman. Most of the items she requested were clothing, hair stuff and some craft items.

I know that she is super crafty and does not know how to entertain herself so I got her

I may return the squishies and get a different set

She is really into hair and makeup so I’ve been slowly building her supply

She also got some makeup brushes!

Tobias got a couple of items, I  am trying to get colorful and educational things for him.

My favorite items were some decor for around the house. I am slowly decorating the house and making it a home. My absolute FAVORITE things are pictures. I don’t know why but I love pictures of family and friends displayed on the walls!

So I got the 4 level picture hanger and 3 shelves to display wedding photos and mementos.  I only have the photos up so far.

I LOVE this

We got married at a vineyard so I covered the twine with dollar store vines and I think it looks fantastic!!

Some thoughts on Prime Day… I hate their organization or lack there of. It takes real time to scroll through their deals even within the categories they have them divided into. So if you are prime shopping, be prepared to scroll. I love how efficient they are, even with such a busy shopping day, I still got most of my items within 2 days. Lightning deals are actually my favorite, they have lower prices and you can put them on a watchlist to get notified when the sales are active. If you see something put it in your cart and buy it. I lost more than one item because I kept looking, they only let you keep the sale price for 15 minutes after it’s on your cart. If you keep track of how much you spend write the sale price down because once it’s gone, if you buy more than one item you don’t get to see the sale price again.

Well that’s it, be prepared to use these tips for Black Friday and Cyber Monday!!

May the odds be ever in your favor!!

Did you get anything good on Prime Day?

Nanowrimo 2020

Majestic Wife and I try to participate in NaNoWriMo every year, that is National Novel Writing Month for you non-participants! This will be our second year competing against each other… nothing like a little friendly competition to spice up the relationship.

Each year you need to write a new story and you can’t actually start writing it until November 1st. The goal is to write 50,000 words and there are prizes, but I don’t know what they are because I have never finished, lol.

Last year was unsuccessful, more so for me than the Majestic Wife, I finished NaNoWriMo with right around 3000 words and I think she topped it off at around 9000-10000. Part of this was due to a lot of things going on right before the end of the year but we are hunkering down and give it the good ole what for!

So with this years just around the corner we have been a bit more serious about it and have already started planning for this November. I have decided to write a prequel to the novel I started this year and Majestic Wife has decided to write an original.

I also thought it would be kinda fun to again keep track of our progress and do a blog every few days maybe with some excerpts as well as updates on our progress.

This is gonna be a fairly short blog as a basis but I’m gonna go ahead and just post the link for NaNoWriMo if you wanna sign up and try writing your own novel this year!

Click here for the link to NaNoWriMo! We don’t get anything for you clicking on that link but if you also wanna post your progress along with us we would absolutely love to read what everyone is doing! You can add us as buddies; I am Struddless and Majestic Wife is MrsBMalicki.

If you have some time to swing by during the month of November on my stream I’ll be doing writing over there with the Majestic wife so you can hang out with us and chat! The streams link is here!

Monday and weightloss

How was your Monday?? I spilled coffee on a book I’m reading about cleaning my house….

I am down 6lbs since Sept 24. I know that doesn’t sound like a lot, but for me it’s great! To gain weight all I have to do is breathe… to lose weight I need to make sacrifices to the Gods.

I did the free two week trial of Noom. Noom is a weightloss plan, there is an app. It is very involved, but basically it’s counting calories. They do have daily lessons that help you get into the psychology of losing weight and it is pretty useful info. If that is something that you think you need check out their website.

But I didn’t continue with them after the trial, I did lose 2lbs a week like they said, but I can count calories without a lesson.

So I am getting through my day on 1400 calories, which should be about 1.5lbs lost a week. It took getting used to, having that amount of calories in one day. I got fat because I ate ALL the calories, lol. There were days when I was dizzy and not feeling great but it has evened out, I can go to sleep without eating all of those calories and feel fine.

I am not working out right now, I am concentrating on my food intake right now. I know there are those who do both, but I know me best! I am wearing my FitBit and getting in as many steps as possible each day. I have even started watching tv while pacing.

All together I feel great and I am hoping that I can keep it up. In a couple of months I’ll start walking again and slowly build up the exercise routine.

How was your day? Do you have anything exciting planned for this week??

Feeling Overwhelmed

I was supposed to do a blog post on Weds for Bonnie’s Book Club. If you were anticipating that, I apologize. I’ve been a little overwhelmed.

I have been biting off more than I can chew lately, it’s a pretty constant problem in my life. I constantly want to go go go but I put so much on my plate, then my depression kicks in so I get NOTHING done. My anxiety then let’s me know what a worthless POS I am and we go round and round.

BUT some great things are slowly happening… the kids and I got some Halloween decorations up

We got some much needed yard work done, we chopped down 5 trees and sprayed the weeds, I might need to do that again.

I have lost 6lbs!! I know that is a seemingly minor victory BUT for me it’s pretty huge.

Homeschool is going… ok… ish… there are great days and days when the kids and I scream at each other. We finally got to the library (our local is closed for renovations). The closest one we can go to is 45min away… and it is in a temporary building. But it was great to get new books!

I have done SO MANY LOADS OF LAUNDRY this week. I gave clothes away, donated some can goods.

I have been working really hard to get my life in order, but I still have SO MUCH TO DO.

That’s where I am this Friday night. I hope you all have a fantastic weekend!! Got any definite plans? We have 90% chance of rain so we are staying in.

Keeping “you”rself in motherhood

A post has caught my attention on Facebook. It is about a mom who finally has some free time without husband or kids and she doesn’t know what to do with herself.

What is fun to a mom?

Mothers tend to make ourselves martyrs. It is a harsh truth, but it is a truth none the less. We spend our entire life taking care of others and barely give ourselves 5 minutes of free time. It is “expected” of us, sort of… but not really.

We, as mothers tend to put so much pressure on ourselves because we want to keep up with what other moms are doing; or seem to be doing on social media. Working moms will spend any free minute they have “making up” the time they spend away from their kids. Stay at home moms’ lives literally revolve around the home and family, so we try to make sure we are “earning our keep” so to speak.

We want to make sure that we are not being out done by our friends on Facebook or we are constantly trying to be as good as our God of a mother…. I seriously will put myself in an early grave trying to be as good of a mom/wife as my mom.

I was reading an honest post of a mom on one of my homeschool groups talking about everything that she has to do every day and asking how we all do it. I commented that I cry a lot in the shower (which is only a small exaggeration) while others expressed sympathy but said they were also barely holding it together. One mom had the “audacity” to say that she actually gives herself free time…. what the hell(lol)?? Other moms were not nice to her and once again WHY????

Why do we as women/moms not allow ourselves to just chill the eff out sometimes? And why would you get upset that someone else ACTUALLY takes care of themselves? Is it just jealousy that you feel you can’t do that or do you not know how.

I forget sometimes to take care of myself, I forget to eat (how am I obese), I forget to shower, I forget to change my clothes, I forget that I am allowed to have emotions, I forget that I was a human before kids and so I am allowed to be a human still. Some of my things are also because of depression, but sometimes they are both.

I can’t tell another mom what to do to relax. But I came up with a list of things I like to do to keep “Bonnie” in my life.

I play Sims. I love that damn video game.

I send my kids to their room for some “mommy time” and I watch movies or TV shows that they can’t watch.

I listen/ read books.

I blog or write… I LOVE TO WRITE.

I craft, so many things.

I plan different things, diets, exercise plans, decorations for whatever holiday, trips that we will probably never take.

I take a shower, shave and yes, sometimes I really do cry.

Sometimes I do nothing. I just sit on the couch and do literally nothing.

These are just some of the things that I do to keep my old self in my new life. I think that it is so important to remember that we are individuals outside of being a mom.

To the wonderful moms that comment on my blog, I always appreciate your opinions and advice. What do you do to keep your mental health? Do you take time our for yourself? Do you sometimes forget?

I have been neutered!

So after my wife and I had our third child we took a look at our lives and realized there was nothing left to do.  We had reached that perfect level, our amazing family of four was complimented by adding our wildest and probably most rambunctious little one.

We sat and had a long…

looooooooooooong…

loooooooooooooooooooong…talk.

When I say long talk it was basically “alright we had Tobias that’s it we’re done.”

So the next step was to ensure we didn’t add more skin babies to the family and thus we come to a story of me getting snipped. The snipping of 2020 as it shall be known.

So Thursday I had my appointment to get the vasectomy done. I took a valium about an hour before the procedure. My majestic wife drove me to the office and back I went.

Waiting in the lobby

I was not expecting the feeling in my stomach, as most guys know any hit, punch, accidental tug makes your stomach turn. Well even with being numb down there you can 100% feel it in your stomach and when he tugged I almost threw up! Stronger stomach prevailed and I was good after that.

The recovery hasn’t been bad but I was extremely sore and passed out right at around 7 last night and didn’t wake up until about 7:40 this morning when my wife came to check on me.

So now I’m sitting on the couch, watching the first Cars movie with my youngest before my wife starts the errands. So I’m planning on doing some writing while I recover and maybe one or two updates since cant really do much.

My wife asked if I needed anything while she was out;Of course I asked for ice cream. She wanted to know what flavor I said it didnt matter it was for my balls. <—— name that movie!! (line might not be exactly the same)

So see you guys soon and remember always spay and neuter!!!

It’s the most wonderful time of the year!!

Yeah… I’m one of THOSE people! I love fall/Christmas, their existence makes my daily life worth living.

Fall Festivals, Octoberfest, Renaissance festival, caramel apples, pumpkin pie, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, decorating… did I mention decorating?

Well we started our fall adventures yesterday with a trip to a localish farm for a corn maze and various other fun things.

The kids got to “mine” gems, they had a messy blast and got some beautiful souvenirs

They need to be scrubbed

They had some pretty amazing smelling food, we didn’t eat any because both my husband and I are watching what we eat. This is a tough time of year for that, lol.

So that was our first activity of the season, but it won’t be our last. We start decorating for Halloween today!

Do you love fall? Do you have any family traditions?

Sleuth Saturday

Introducing Bonnie’s Book Club!! We will be discussing the different books that I am reading/listening to.

My goal is to post 2 books a month, one on Saturday, which will specifically be a Sherlock Holmes story and then another book on a Weds. I will share ahead of time which book will be discussing so if you want to read it with me!

As previously blogged, I have become an Amazon associate, so certain blogs will have links and if you purchase from my link I will receive a small percentage. I will share where I got the book, library, Amazon, Facebook Marketplace. Goodwill, or my mom.

I have also joined Audible because being a busy mom sometimes sitting down and reading a book is difficult, BUT letting my echo dot read the book out loud while I clean is SUPER EASY!! So audible is $14.99 a month and they give you a free audiobook!! So of course I bought the Complete Stories of Sherlock Holmes and saved almost $50.

One thing that I don’t necessarily love is not being able to see the words when I am actually sitting down and listening…. I KNOW… never satisfied. But I bought my husband this book from Barnes and Noble a couple of years ago so I read along sometimes.

SO today we are talking about A Study in Scarlet, originally published in 1887. This is the first story where John Watson meets Sherlock Holmes and follows him around while Sherlock solves a crime. This is a two part story; the first part consists of Sherlock solving the crime and the second part explains why the murders happened at all. The first time I listened to the story I was very confused because the story was happening in England and then all of a sudden we are listening to two dying people in the desert.

If you are going to read the story and want to be surprised you should stop reading now. I will be revealing all.

Have you stopped reading???

Ok so the murdered in this story is a cabbie, he is avenging the lives of his love and her father!

Lucy and John Ferrier were stranded in the desert and dying when a caravan of displaced Mormons happened upon them. With the promise of following their religion and rules the Mormons saved them both and brought them to their promised land (Utah). John Ferrier (the father) thrived in Utah and became a very rich man, but he never really believed in the Mormon religion. His daughter Lucy falls in love with a man, Jefferson Hope, who is not a Mormon and they become engaged.

When word spreads that Lucy is engaged to be wed to a “gentile” Ferrier is visited by the prophet or chief of their village and is told that his daughter will chose between 2 Mormon men (sons of the Holy Four). Though violence and death are not spoken directly it is implied.

Trying to save his daughter from a miserable arranged marriage they both escape with Jefferson Hope, trying to get to Nevada. They have to take an extremely perilous journey and unfortunately the Mormons catch up to them while Jefferson Hope is hunting for food. They kill John Ferrier immediately and take Lucy back to Salt Lake City, she is forced to marry one of the sons of the elders and within a month she is dead.

Jefferson Hope is obviously enraged and tries to kill the two men most responsible for his anguish several times. They both live in fear for years, they actually leave the Mormon church and head back East. Jefferson Hope has to abandon his vengeance mission for several years but he starts stalking them. He finds them by accident but he is immediately recognized and the two men flee. Hope’s search for the men takes years, over 2 continents and many countries.

He finally gets them in England. First he finds the man who married his Lucy just for her father’s fortune and did nothing to prevent her death. He gives the man a pill after revealing who he was. The man dies of poison in an abandoned home, with only his murderer to watch. Hope then finds the other man, who actually killed John Ferrier, at his hotel. Hope wakes him up early in the morning with a knife to his throat and tries to give him the poison, but a fight ensure and he is stabbed to death instead.

Sherlock Holmes had of course figured out the “how” of the murders before we are even introduced to Jefferson Hope and John and Lucy Ferrier. He actually kills a dying dog to prove his point…. probably a normal thing back in 1887. He even knows the “who” and tricks the cabbie into coming to his flat with 2 policeman there so he can be arrested.

Jefferson Hope is arrested but is never punished for the crimes he committed though, he dies of a aneurism that very night in jail.

So that is the story, greatly abridged, but that is the basis of what happens. I really enjoyed reading how Holmes’ mind works and meeting characters I am familiar with from the TV show and the movies.

On October 7th I will be talking about A Simple Favor, both the movie and the book. On October 24th we will talk about The Hound of Baskerville.

You can click this link to sign up for a free 30-day trial with Audible and get a free audiobook that you get to keep even if you don’t sign up for the full membership! And if you upgrade to the Premium Plus you get one audiobook a month!

The book is called ‘The Complete Stories of Sherlock Holmes’ so you can listen along with me!

Click this link for the Physical Book!

Click this link for the Audiobook if you already have audible!