Nanowrimo 2020

Majestic Wife and I try to participate in NaNoWriMo every year, that is National Novel Writing Month for you non-participants! This will be our second year competing against each other… nothing like a little friendly competition to spice up the relationship.

Each year you need to write a new story and you can’t actually start writing it until November 1st. The goal is to write 50,000 words and there are prizes, but I don’t know what they are because I have never finished, lol.

Last year was unsuccessful, more so for me than the Majestic Wife, I finished NaNoWriMo with right around 3000 words and I think she topped it off at around 9000-10000. Part of this was due to a lot of things going on right before the end of the year but we are hunkering down and give it the good ole what for!

So with this years just around the corner we have been a bit more serious about it and have already started planning for this November. I have decided to write a prequel to the novel I started this year and Majestic Wife has decided to write an original.

I also thought it would be kinda fun to again keep track of our progress and do a blog every few days maybe with some excerpts as well as updates on our progress.

This is gonna be a fairly short blog as a basis but I’m gonna go ahead and just post the link for NaNoWriMo if you wanna sign up and try writing your own novel this year!

Click here for the link to NaNoWriMo! We don’t get anything for you clicking on that link but if you also wanna post your progress along with us we would absolutely love to read what everyone is doing! You can add us as buddies; I am Struddless and Majestic Wife is MrsBMalicki.

If you have some time to swing by during the month of November on my stream I’ll be doing writing over there with the Majestic wife so you can hang out with us and chat! The streams link is here!

I have been neutered!

So after my wife and I had our third child we took a look at our lives and realized there was nothing left to do.  We had reached that perfect level, our amazing family of four was complimented by adding our wildest and probably most rambunctious little one.

We sat and had a long…

looooooooooooong…

loooooooooooooooooooong…talk.

When I say long talk it was basically “alright we had Tobias that’s it we’re done.”

So the next step was to ensure we didn’t add more skin babies to the family and thus we come to a story of me getting snipped. The snipping of 2020 as it shall be known.

So Thursday I had my appointment to get the vasectomy done. I took a valium about an hour before the procedure. My majestic wife drove me to the office and back I went.

Waiting in the lobby

I was not expecting the feeling in my stomach, as most guys know any hit, punch, accidental tug makes your stomach turn. Well even with being numb down there you can 100% feel it in your stomach and when he tugged I almost threw up! Stronger stomach prevailed and I was good after that.

The recovery hasn’t been bad but I was extremely sore and passed out right at around 7 last night and didn’t wake up until about 7:40 this morning when my wife came to check on me.

So now I’m sitting on the couch, watching the first Cars movie with my youngest before my wife starts the errands. So I’m planning on doing some writing while I recover and maybe one or two updates since cant really do much.

My wife asked if I needed anything while she was out;Of course I asked for ice cream. She wanted to know what flavor I said it didnt matter it was for my balls. <—— name that movie!! (line might not be exactly the same)

So see you guys soon and remember always spay and neuter!!!

It’s not what it seems

Eric…. it’s not what it seems…. it’s not what it seems —- name that movie

I took a hiatus from blogging this summer. It was a good decision, I went to a pretty dark place. Also, life was boring.

The Corona summer is coming to an end and it has sucked. Probably the worse summer ever. We’ve been bored, stuck in the house, lazy, depressed.

To end the summer with a bang I got sick, really, really sick. I was struggling to catch my breath, I had a fever, stomach issues, dizziness, my throat was killing me, my head was killing me and I was so sore… and I had a cough… smokers with emphysema have a milder cough.

These symptoms completely knocked me on my ass for almost a week before I got tested for Covid. There were moments I thought I was going to die, I was so weak and I couldn’t breathe. I was sure I had caught the plague.

But, things were not what they seemed and it was just the flu. It took a solid 2 weeks to feel better, but I survived!

Summertime highlights:

  • I started a Beachbody program and finished 4 weeks before I fell down the stairs and broke my toes.
  • We finally laid my Nanny to rest.
  • Went to Pennsylvania for the first time in 4 years, saw family I hadn’t seen in over 15 years.
  • I went to the beach twice
  • Got to see fireworks
  • My daughter’s lyra performance was beautiful
  • Both my boys went through huge growth spurts
  • Started a YouTube channel
  • Gained a bunch of weight after breaking my toes and almost have 3 chins
  • Watched The Last Airbender and Legend of Korra, love the first and not the second
  • Watched New Girl again and realized I only watch it for CeCe and Schmidt’s storyline. Jess is super annoying
  • Got really into Twilight again and have watched all the movies A LOT and have re read the first 2 books so far

So that was basically my summer. Oh yeah it was just my birthday and I turned 36. Normally I would post a picture of my face and write something cute about how I look, but there is nothing cute about how I look right now… too much weight, acne from wearing masks, bags under my eyes from lack of sleep and my hair is in frightening disarray.

It’s been a rough summer but we are falling into my favorite time of the year. The kids and I are successfully homeschooling and I think good things are on the way!!

How was your summer?

I’ll reveal the source of my movie quote in the next blog!

June 15th

I was scanning my Facebook memories, as I do each day, but this day was different.

Apparently June 15th I feel compelled to upload a selfie roughly every 2 years.

A five year history of me

I started looking at the pictures and thinking about the different things happening in my life at each point.

June 2015- I was almost 2 yrs out of my first marriage and I had tried dating for the first time that year… it didn’t go well. I was exercising about 5 days a week, 30lbs down from 2 yrs prior. I was working a job that I loved. I wore makeup….I was feeling myself!  My life was about to change drastically though and it would propel me into the life I’m living now.

June 2017- I was living in a new state, at a new store, now a POG team lead.  I had gained ALL 30lbs back and more. I was dating my now husband and we were about to move in together. I loved my job, but the position was about to disappear and I was TIRED constantly.

June 2019- I am married again, a new homeowner and I had a baby back in January. I am getting barely any sleep, can’t even open my eyes completely and about 10 min after this picture is taken I am told how lazy of a mom I am (by my daughter) because I don’t want to take the kids to the pool. Mom guilt pushed me and my terrible self esteem to squeeze my fat ass into a swimsuit. It wasn’t a fun day for me at all.

June 2020…. where do I even start??? Ignoring the world around me that’s burning down. I’m actually doing well. I’ve gotten serious about losing ALL the weight over gained. Mentally I have great days and terrible days but I’m recovering faster than ever. I have an amazing support group and I feel strong. I’m remembering my self worth comes from me and I am not letting anyone’s hurtful actions ruin that again! I am doing this for me.

I’m going to be pushing myself to work on my business, I am hoping to start gaining some financial independence while being at home with the kids. We are homeschooling this upcoming year and I am excited for this new challenge. Getting out of my comfort zone to better my kids.

Do you ever reflect on your past and how it has brought you to where you are now? Do you still have hope for 2020, or have you given up??

Quarantine #2

I had to take a mental health break from blogging. It’s kind of funny that something that I love doing can become tedious or something I dread doing. That is my depression and anxiety coming through.

It’s now April 2020 and we have been quarantined for a month. Just like the memes, we started out strong… but it’s wearing on us now

Around day 30…
I was super excited!!

I was really looking forward to homeschooling my kids but as I found out doing the packets IS NOT homeschooling. I don’t even want to go into it!

Days are redundant, we have a picky one year one year old so we watch Cars 1,2,3 or Mater Tales ALL DAY. Schoolwork, Cars, eating and backyard.

Again… and again
I am going to have all these rolls

Other than doing schoolwork, my oldest has enjoyed quarantine the most. He doesn’t have a ton of friends and his one friend is quarantined as well. He is content playing minecraft and watching YouTube all day. I make him go outside and play everyday to give his eyes a break. Honestly he would probably be ok with this awhile longer.

The baby is loving having everyone home. He gets so much attention and love. He is learning so much, he says kitty, no, yes, mama, dada, dog, car, truck. He also is making car noises.

My daughter is a totally different story. She handles schoolwork well, but does not handle being in the house at all! We have spent a small fortune on things to entertain her. I have also tried to teach her to crochet, make jewelry using UV resin, I let her make slime… which is something I never used to. Everyday she says what craft are we doing today??? I’m running out of ideas!!

My husband is working at home now, we are fortunate that he is considered essential. He is working in our closet Monday thru Friday. Poor man is extremely uncomfortable but it’s the only spot he can be on the phone and not hear everything happening in the house. Other than that he’s fine, probably a little concerned by my new online shopping addiction. But he hasn’t left me yet.

I have great days where I’m killing it and days where I cry getting out of bed. I am an introvert so being stuck in the house isn’t terrible, but I’m an empath and I feel EVERYONES emotions plus my own. So that is exhausting. But I am trying to make the best of the situation. I have started making jewelry, wire wraps and other bracelets.

First wire wrap bracelet

I have finished quite a few resin pieces, I started making YouTube videos for crafts, mostly kids stuff so far. I have been working out and trying to diet (so far my diet has consisted of EVERYTHING in the pantry). Reading books, started a new series on Netflix, playing with the kids, hanging out with the husband. Cleaning… I’m cleaning constantly, it is LITERALLY a never ending battle of cleaning.

How is your quarantine going? Are you having ups and downs or just smooth sailing?

Quarantine #1

Let’s be real. This isn’t going to be my only quarantine post.

I’m late with posting this week, my normal posting schedule is Friday and Monday. Obviously life is a little upside down for everyone right now and I’m no different.

My kids are on their second week of school at home and my husband is now working at home as well. So life is interesting. I also lost my Grandma this week, she died in her sleep after having a stroke, so I am also in mourning again.

So this past month has been rough with losing my Nanny and then my Grandma, kids being stuck in the house and now my husband.

Homeschooling has been interesting, but I’ll write about that another time. Today I want to write about the fun stuff we have been doing to not kill each other!

The older kids still have schoolwork to do so they don’t have to be entertained 24/7. I also am not the parent that restricts screen time often and that saves my sanity at this point. But even still I don’t want them staring at the TV or tablet constantly so we have tried other things

Chalk Mosaic

With some masking tape, chalk, time and patience we created this. It was actually for our neighbors to see as they are walking the neighborhood.

One of 14 anoles spotted

On nice days we are outside doing schoolwork, yardwork and spotting wildlife. We found 14 anoles in one day.

We are spending more time as a family, inside or out. Battleship, Googly Eyes Showdown, Mousetrap. Fire pits and burning things.

When we are inside we are watching movies together or crafting

I made homemade paint from flour, salt, food coloring and water for the baby. He LOVED it!

We painted our tub

That’s it for all, its not perfect but we are all living still. There are frustrations and short nerves fights between kids. But I love having my family home.