So I am going to do a life update, I feel like a lot has happened since the beginning of March. Matt and I joined a gym transformation challenge. Its 6 weeks, you need to attend at least 4 workouts a week and the workouts are 50mins. They have childcare, which is completely neccessary for me. The workouts are INTENSE but amazing! I have really been enjoying putting in the work.
My husband actually joined the challenge as well! Super proud of him for jumping in with me. Of course, I’m also jealous because he has been having better results than me… despite the fact that I work out more often, constantly on my feet during the day and I eat better. It’s fine, I’m fine…
Adding to the working out, I have also been walking. I have done 3 official 5ks so far this year and I have earned medals for walking a certain distance in a certain amount of time
I am super excited to say that we are going to the Vincent Van Gogh exhibit that is working it’s way around the US.
I am and have been obsessed with Vincent Van Gogh for a really long time, particularly Starry Night (basic, I know). But I can’t help it… I have Starry Night leggings, shoes and decor in my house
Also, one of my besties is coming to the show with us, so that makes it even more special.
In more exciting news, our library has opened back up!! It has been closed for renovations for over a year. And I am happy to say it’s been open for a couple of weeks and we have already been twice.
Some of my current obsessions I am learning about! Matt and I are watching Vikings right now and the show has definitely sparked an interest in learning more.
Well, I think that is all my life right now. I hope everyone is safe and thriving!
Finally leaving this year behind. I want to reflect on what has happened… the good, the bad and the ugly.
This year has been full of ups and downs. Moments I have loved and moments I wish wouldn’t have happened. I obviously will not re-live all of these moments with you but some things I am concentrating on right now.
So for reference, here is what I wanted to work on this year
I want to make sure my family is really living… not stuck in the house…. I feel like I might be to blame for Covid….
Ok so…. literally nothing was accomplished on this list because CORONAVIRUS!!
Well… I can’t say that. I did actually read ALOT more than I have in the last 5 years; by which I mean listened to an audiobook OR actually read them. And I really enjoyed getting excited about what was going to happen to the character next, I love the anticipation that a good book can create! I will be continuing that into the new year.
But I basically failed at everything else.
In my high moments, I started homeschooling and honestly I love it! Yeah its stressful and there are rough moments but I love teaching my kids. We have spent A LOT of time together this year. The 4 (mostly the 3 of us, but the baby helps) of us have done some pretty fun experiments, like making a cloud in a jar or growing crystals. We have spent more time together outside then we have spent in a LONG time. Basically those are my good moments, our family time. We have really come together/bonded.
I tried making YouTube videos. I stopped because I have too much on my plate… but I tried!
I started getting more of my projects done around the house, trying to make this place feel like home.
I threw some awesome birthday parties. Got really creative with decorations.
I took LOTS of pictures. I really do enjoy my photography hobby. I got to see the sunrise over the beach twice this year!
We went to the beach more this year. I need the salt air in my life, it cleanses my emotional palate and gives me a fresh outlook on life.
In my low moments… well both my grandmother’s died this year and I’m still healing.
My depression/anxiety has been at an all time high. I have not been in a good place mentally this year for so many reasons. I feel like most of us have been in a dark place for a least a little bit this year.
I gained 20lbs this year, I am heading into 2021 weighing more than I have ever weighed. My confidence is almost non-existent and my self hatred is at an all time high. I am stuck in this rut where I start to work out but get injured due to my weight and then stop working out to heal, get depressed because I can’t workout and then binge eat ANYTHING.
Even my marriage has had some tribulations that I was not expecting. But we are going to be just fine!
So going into 2021 I am not going to list resolutions or goals. Going into this year I am creating a mantra….
Be better about being nicer to myself
Be better about taking care of myself
Be better about putting my mental/emotional/physical health first
Be better at acknowledging what I get done and not focusing on what I didn’t.
Be better at taking compliments AND believing them
Be better about believing I am loved more than I am hated.
Be better about asking for help and demanding it if necessary.
Be better about remembering what life has already thrown at me because I survived it all.
So going into 2021 I am hopeful for a better year, a better me!!
Halloween has passed, which means it’s Christmas time!! Lol, I kid… sort of
This past week did not go the way I wanted at all. I have sciatica and this past week it flared up for 5 days so for 5 days I could barely move without being in extreme pain. So any and all plans I had fell through.
Well almost every plan. I had to make my daughter’s Halloween costume and like a true procrastinator I waited until the week before to even start. She wanted to be Harley Quinn and at first I vetoed that idea because she is only 9 and Harley costumes tend to be sexy but I came around to the idea if I could make the costume myself.
I tried dying them with Rit and that did not work well AT ALL. So I decided to paint the clothes with acrylic paint and that worked surprisingly well!
I have decided that I won’t be putting my kids face’s on here anymore. People can download your pictures right off your blog… I didn’t know that.
I also did 3 mock classes for VIPKIDS, still trying to get approved to teach. I am not happy that I haven’t passed yet. But I’m hoping that it will all be worth it! I am excited to have a job again and financially contribute to the household. My next mock class is tomorrow night so happy thought would be appreciated.
Halloween was pretty amazing, our neighborhood went all out this year. The kids got 3 giant bowls of candy!
The kids are learning about Native American history this month. I am pretty excited for the crafts I have planned and we will probably take another trip to the State Museum for some hands on learning.
NanoWriMo started yesterday!! Matt and I are both very excited, I got 1832 words logged day one and Matt logged in over 650. I stayed up later last night to type more.
The baby has balanitis. I spent 2 hours at urgent care yesterday to get him diagnosed. I hate when my babies are sick and this particular child does not take meds well… so this is going to be a struggle. He is on liquid antibiotics, tylenol and ibuprofen for pain/fever. He also had 2 creams that I need to apply to the infected area several times a day.
So our November is full already! I have to start taking down Halloween decorations and getting Christmas ones ready to go up.
How was everyone’s week? Do you have any exciting plans for November? When do you put up Christmas decorations??
I was supposed to do a blog post on Weds for Bonnie’s Book Club. If you were anticipating that, I apologize. I’ve been a little overwhelmed.
I have been biting off more than I can chew lately, it’s a pretty constant problem in my life. I constantly want to go go go but I put so much on my plate, then my depression kicks in so I get NOTHING done. My anxiety then let’s me know what a worthless POS I am and we go round and round.
BUT some great things are slowly happening… the kids and I got some Halloween decorations up
We got some much needed yard work done, we chopped down 5 trees and sprayed the weeds, I might need to do that again.
I have lost 6lbs!! I know that is a seemingly minor victory BUT for me it’s pretty huge.
Homeschool is going… ok… ish… there are great days and days when the kids and I scream at each other. We finally got to the library (our local is closed for renovations). The closest one we can go to is 45min away… and it is in a temporary building. But it was great to get new books!
I have done SO MANY LOADS OF LAUNDRY this week. I gave clothes away, donated some can goods.
I have been working really hard to get my life in order, but I still have SO MUCH TO DO.
That’s where I am this Friday night. I hope you all have a fantastic weekend!! Got any definite plans? We have 90% chance of rain so we are staying in.
I turn 36 this year, and I have been reflecting on the many things my life has taught me. I decided to compile a list of things I think are important and if you have any edits or things to add I would love to see them
1. Let it Go. There is nothing in this life that is worth the energy it takes to hate. It pays to be the bigger person and just let it go.
2. Believe in karma. You get back what you put out. If you are going to be a lying, cheating, POS, you are going to get what is coming to you. Also, if you encounter one of these people in your life, know they are going to get theirs(ties in with Let it Go).
3. Drink water, exercise, get sunlight. Even if you are skinny, don’t take that for granted. Exercise to be strong. It will help you in the future.
4. Travel, make rash decisions, know you are not taking money to the grave. Find what makes you happy and hold onto it. I think a lot of misery is life comes from letting your passions fall by the wayside.
5. Be yourself. That is a multifaceted statement. Dress how you want to dress, get married, don’t get married, have kids, don’t have kids, only have one, prioritize work, or work to live. Live how you want to live and love who you want. But be respectful, don’t push your beliefs and don’t expect others to change theirs because of you.
6. Commit. Whatever you decide you are going to do, be committed. You are making decisions with your life, there are going to be highs and lows. If you are married, act married, you are part of a team and no longer the only player. If you are a parent, be involved in everything. If you adopt, buy or find a pet they are a part of your life now.
7. Forgive yourself. Quite simple, you are going to make mistakes. Own it, take responsibility and forgive yourself.
8. Have faith, hope, pray. I am not pushing religion on you, but in my experience life is better when you believe in something bigger than yourself. I have developed a more intimate relationship with God and I have been much happier.
9. Be the example. Someone is watching you, someone is following your lead. If you are a parent lead by example, read instead of watching tv, get outside so you aren’t living on your couch, love yourself and others, help others, forgive, know that not every action requires a response.
10. Laugh, cry, feel, love. Life is better when you truly live it. Put yourself out there, get hurt, fall in love, set goals and achieve them. Wish upon a star and work to attain that wish.
11. Be creative. Find a creative outlet in life, art, writing, music, build something. It just has to be for you, no one else
I thought I would give an update on my resolutions since it has been over 14 days
Most resolutions last only 14 days, did you know that?
Well I am proud to say that most of mine are going strong. I am exercising, reading, most days I am eating healthy, there are even entire days that the downstairs of my house is CLEAN!!
I have not concentrated on my business yet, which is upsetting but sometimes it feels like there are not enough hours in the day.
I am pretty excited to say that I’ll be recording a video of me working on some Valentine’s day resin pieces. I am both excited and nervous because I’m awkward. I am hoping that I will just come off as cool and relaxed, lol.
I have already finished Me Before You and started on After You, the sequel. I’m probably going to start blogging about the books that I read versus their movie counterparts. I LOVE comparing them!
I am very proud to say that my resolutions are rubbing off on my kids, my oldest son, who HATES reading, has been caught reading a book on his own time twice! And they are both getting more active with me and wanting to workout.
I was really hoping that making positive changes in my life would run off on my kids. Though they are not fat AT ALL I want them to have a healthy outlook on diet and exercise that will help them their entire life. When I was younger I was skinny, and I took that for granted. I was super out of shape and struggled to even get through a gym class. It makes getting skinnier after being obese for so long really hard.
So now that it is actually the beginning of February I can say that I am still keeping the downstairs of my house clean, working out, walking (I did 90 miles last month) and I’m eating pretty well!
I’m excited about the positive changes that I’m seeing in the house
I’m not changing myself, there isn’t anything wrong with me!! <—- that’s me pretending I have self confidence
I have things I could improve on, like washing, folding and putting away the laundry in a 2 day period, max.
What I’m calling my New Year’s Resolution is Live a Life Worth Blogging About.
I want to make sure that my family is living, really living. Not stuck in front of the TV or in the house. I want them to live.
I have goals though.
1. I want to work out at least 4 times a week.
2. I want to read at least one book a month.
3. I want to make sure that I am prioritizing my business. I have a business that I haven’t really written about here and I’ve been really lazy with it.
4. My house… I am a slob IRL. I don’t prioritize cleaning AT ALL. But since buying a house, the kids having friends coming over, me meeting moms that come over and having a mom that is a clean freak who hates coming to my house because it’s messy. I want to do better cleaning my house.
5. My marriage, that is pretty self evident. You should ALWAYS work on your relationship.
6. Eat less. I LOVE food. Love it. I want to keep losing weight and my problem is food.
So those are my goals, most of them, maybe all. I want to hopefully keep these going. I sure you know that most people give up their resolutions within 2 weeks.
What are your resolutions? Do you ever stick with them or not buy into it at all?
Christmas has come and gone now. The gifts have been unwrapped, toys played with, food eaten and kids are now asleep.
Well most of the house is asleep. I am up finishing my book
I am going up to bed, but I thought I would blog the day.
Our Christmas Eve went according to plan completely. Dinner, church, toast, opening one gift.
If you are a parent or an aunt, uncle, grandparent or anyone who helps with a child you know the rush and work that gets put in on Christmas Eve night after the kids are asleep. There is last minute wrapping, toys that need to be built, organizing of the presents and various other tasks. All for giving our kids the most magical Christmas ever!!
On Christmas morning the nerves and excitement are coursing through your veins hoping they love everything, even though you won’t get credit for everything you did *Santa*. But it is all worth it to see the smiles on their faces
This year was a hard one for me. I did not buy my older 2 kids (9 and 8) a single toy! Not a one.
I did not come to this decision lightly and I went back and forth multiple times. My kids don’t play with toys much anymore AND they have so many that they really didn’t NEED anymore. I decided to get them gifts that they would use more than once and things that would stimulate their minds.
I almost cried when I went to bed last night after setting up because we celebrate Christmas with my family. My brother has 3 boys and their piles were HUGE, piles of toys.
I knew my kids were going to see those piles and compare theirs, which were much smaller.
*this is our first Christmas with one income and in the past, even as a single mom I SPOILED my kids*
I tried to think positive and say that they would appreciate what they got.
It was as almost true. My son loved what he got, his big present was a build your own computer kit and monitor. He will be able to code his own Minecraft games.
My daughter did not appreciate much at first, she saw the size difference between piles and she was jealous. She smiled as she opened her gifts, but there wasn’t her normal joy. She didn’t get a “big” gift so to speak, she got roller skates and a radio/bluetooth speaker for listening to music.
I was hurt and disappointed to say the least, but there was nothing I could do. The parents open their gifts after the kids and then we eat breakfast.
After breakfast she came to me with her skates and asked if she could try them. I was so excited!
We went outside and practiced… this was her first time in skates
She did well, which is normal. She excels at anything physical.
After that her whole attitude changed.
I felt so much better.
And despite not recieving any toys, my children never once said, I’m bored!!
Happy Thanksgiving to all and now it’s officially CHRISTMAS TIME
So its Thanksgiving today, well it was Thanksgiving today. Its 10pm and for me and my family, its over. I finally just got the baby down
Yes that really is the baby and myself in a really dark room. I wasn’t going to use the flash and risk waking him up!
He’s been difficult these last few weeks.
I don’t really take many pics on Thanksgiving because I’m usually recovering from working LONG overnights or getting ready to go to work because, retail.
*insert Hunger Games Whistle* recognition to those who work retail
This is my first year in 6 years where Thanksgiving was actually a holiday, so it was a new experience for me.
My big kids are always with their dad on Thanksgiving and normally this doesn’t bother me at all… I’m at work. But this year was different and it made me sad. I miss them, even in less than a day.
But the day continued as any holiday, big family get together, lots of food, good cheer, laughter and a huge amount of stress for the chick who suffers from social anxiety, lol.
Having kids is kind of a buffer for me. When people are around my big kids, they just want to compliment them and talk about them and that is FINE with me. Without them, the topic of what the baby has going on ends quickly. He has 2 teeth, taking steps and yes we vaccinate. End.
And then I’m left with a pit in my stomach and an awkward face that makes people think I’m sick, haha.
But I survived and now I have 3 days with my husband in my old stomping grounds so we are going to see what fun we can come up with!
Happy Thanksgiving to all and now we are officially in CHRISTMAS TIME!!!
There were happy moments and bring joy to me remembering them
I have mentioned before that I was married before. It didn’t end well, in fact most of the marriage wasn’t great. We were 2 kids who got married “to do the right thing” and we failed.
When I left I started a whole new life, new email address, social media accounts, the works.
I was single for 3 years after I left, I was damaged and broken and then I met this wonderful man who was and is ok with my faults and fears. He strives to help me heal and we have a great life together; storybook great.
I’ve been going through my old Facebook account because Matt likes to look at pictures of the kids as babies and compare them to Tobias.
I have mixed feelings about looking through the past because there are terrible memories like this
(There’s a story there)
And though painful, I’m actually ok with those because it confirms why we aren’t together.
But there also moments like these
Look how young we were! Full of hopes and dreams.
There were happy moments and bring joy to me remembering them
But is that ok?
I wouldn’t give up what I have right now for anything, but does that mean I have to hate my life before?
I feel like I’m between a rock and a hard place in my situation. On one hand I have this amazing husband and I don’t ever want him to think I have any regrets. On the other, I now have knowledge and maturity and when I think of my past I remember the moments I wish I would have used them.
My ex and I have a touchy relationship, pain and anger harvested on both sides. We do our best for our kids.