Prioritize

I haven’t posted in almost 2 weeks. I have felt a bit overwhelmed and the first things I stop are my creative outlets (which I don’t recommend). When the house is gross and the kids are acting up and the husband walks around with blinders “not seeing” the problems, the last thing I “feel” is being creative.

I haven’t had the energy to do much beyond the necessary, just smile and wave boys… smile and wave.

There is evidence all over the house of things I have attempted to do or clean. The floor streamer in the living room, broom in the dining room, contents of our homeschooling cabinet littered all over because I was going to organize.

That being said I have been spending more time with the kids. We went to the state museum, we’ve been to the park a couple of times and generally we are spending more time outside.

Fell asleep on the way to the park
Throwing paint at canvas
Met a friend at the museum

So life isn’t terrible and I am prioritizing the kids, it gets me through even the worst bout. Sometimes everything gets to be too much and you have to step back and remember what really matters.

I hope you are all well!

This Week

I’ve been watching the Sex and the City movies the last few days. It takes me more than one day to finish them because I have kids and they are SUPER inappropriate. I have to stop them every time the kids come in the room.

It’s 7am and no body is awake yet! That is basically unheard of in this.  house, all 3 kids are early risers.

Usually I use this time to clean because I have 3 kids and my house is always a mess, but today I decided to give myself a break. I’m eating Fruity Pebble knock offs and I’m watching an adult movie that I don’t have to pause every 5 minutes…

There is heaven on Earth.

I kid, lol. I probably gained 5 lbs from one bowl of cereal and my house is still a mess so not really heaven.

This week is a typical one, school, organized playdates, lyra, judo/jujitsu/kickboxing, laundry, cleaning, cooking, scheduling doctor’s appointments, finishing a piece for a customer and all the other things I add to my life unnecessarily. And all of these are done on broken toes. 3 broken toes.

Yeah… 3 on two feet. Long story short, I rebroke the toes that I broke this summer and then broke a toe on my other foot by trying to protect my already broken toes and dropping a heavy metal object on ANOTHER toe. And let me tell you what… they HURT. They hurt more this time than they did last time.

Some of the unnecessary things I have added to my list, my DIY Halloween decorations and a blog about them, we make crafts for a hospice(this is extra but in my opinion necessary), NaNoWriMo(but I LOVE IT) and walking a 5k… plans were made before my toes decided to look like pudding, and VOTING!!

These are some of the things I have added to my plate and though they are not actually necessary, I WANT to do them.

The problem that I face is because I WANT to do them they get pushed back to the background OR what I have done this week ignore some of the things like cleaning to do them. I don’t have enough time in my life, haha.

Making a ghost with cheesecloth
A different way to make a ghost
Cute crafts
My customers piece
Trying to make hot chocolate bombs!
Performed my civic duty

I said duty…

Have a great weekend! What do you guys have planned

Keeping “you”rself in motherhood

A post has caught my attention on Facebook. It is about a mom who finally has some free time without husband or kids and she doesn’t know what to do with herself.

What is fun to a mom?

Mothers tend to make ourselves martyrs. It is a harsh truth, but it is a truth none the less. We spend our entire life taking care of others and barely give ourselves 5 minutes of free time. It is “expected” of us, sort of… but not really.

We, as mothers tend to put so much pressure on ourselves because we want to keep up with what other moms are doing; or seem to be doing on social media. Working moms will spend any free minute they have “making up” the time they spend away from their kids. Stay at home moms’ lives literally revolve around the home and family, so we try to make sure we are “earning our keep” so to speak.

We want to make sure that we are not being out done by our friends on Facebook or we are constantly trying to be as good as our God of a mother…. I seriously will put myself in an early grave trying to be as good of a mom/wife as my mom.

I was reading an honest post of a mom on one of my homeschool groups talking about everything that she has to do every day and asking how we all do it. I commented that I cry a lot in the shower (which is only a small exaggeration) while others expressed sympathy but said they were also barely holding it together. One mom had the “audacity” to say that she actually gives herself free time…. what the hell(lol)?? Other moms were not nice to her and once again WHY????

Why do we as women/moms not allow ourselves to just chill the eff out sometimes? And why would you get upset that someone else ACTUALLY takes care of themselves? Is it just jealousy that you feel you can’t do that or do you not know how.

I forget sometimes to take care of myself, I forget to eat (how am I obese), I forget to shower, I forget to change my clothes, I forget that I am allowed to have emotions, I forget that I was a human before kids and so I am allowed to be a human still. Some of my things are also because of depression, but sometimes they are both.

I can’t tell another mom what to do to relax. But I came up with a list of things I like to do to keep “Bonnie” in my life.

I play Sims. I love that damn video game.

I send my kids to their room for some “mommy time” and I watch movies or TV shows that they can’t watch.

I listen/ read books.

I blog or write… I LOVE TO WRITE.

I craft, so many things.

I plan different things, diets, exercise plans, decorations for whatever holiday, trips that we will probably never take.

I take a shower, shave and yes, sometimes I really do cry.

Sometimes I do nothing. I just sit on the couch and do literally nothing.

These are just some of the things that I do to keep my old self in my new life. I think that it is so important to remember that we are individuals outside of being a mom.

To the wonderful moms that comment on my blog, I always appreciate your opinions and advice. What do you do to keep your mental health? Do you take time our for yourself? Do you sometimes forget?