Feeling Overwhelmed

I was supposed to do a blog post on Weds for Bonnie’s Book Club. If you were anticipating that, I apologize. I’ve been a little overwhelmed.

I have been biting off more than I can chew lately, it’s a pretty constant problem in my life. I constantly want to go go go but I put so much on my plate, then my depression kicks in so I get NOTHING done. My anxiety then let’s me know what a worthless POS I am and we go round and round.

BUT some great things are slowly happening… the kids and I got some Halloween decorations up

We got some much needed yard work done, we chopped down 5 trees and sprayed the weeds, I might need to do that again.

I have lost 6lbs!! I know that is a seemingly minor victory BUT for me it’s pretty huge.

Homeschool is going… ok… ish… there are great days and days when the kids and I scream at each other. We finally got to the library (our local is closed for renovations). The closest one we can go to is 45min away… and it is in a temporary building. But it was great to get new books!

I have done SO MANY LOADS OF LAUNDRY this week. I gave clothes away, donated some can goods.

I have been working really hard to get my life in order, but I still have SO MUCH TO DO.

That’s where I am this Friday night. I hope you all have a fantastic weekend!! Got any definite plans? We have 90% chance of rain so we are staying in.

June 15th

I was scanning my Facebook memories, as I do each day, but this day was different.

Apparently June 15th I feel compelled to upload a selfie roughly every 2 years.

A five year history of me

I started looking at the pictures and thinking about the different things happening in my life at each point.

June 2015- I was almost 2 yrs out of my first marriage and I had tried dating for the first time that year… it didn’t go well. I was exercising about 5 days a week, 30lbs down from 2 yrs prior. I was working a job that I loved. I wore makeup….I was feeling myself!  My life was about to change drastically though and it would propel me into the life I’m living now.

June 2017- I was living in a new state, at a new store, now a POG team lead.  I had gained ALL 30lbs back and more. I was dating my now husband and we were about to move in together. I loved my job, but the position was about to disappear and I was TIRED constantly.

June 2019- I am married again, a new homeowner and I had a baby back in January. I am getting barely any sleep, can’t even open my eyes completely and about 10 min after this picture is taken I am told how lazy of a mom I am (by my daughter) because I don’t want to take the kids to the pool. Mom guilt pushed me and my terrible self esteem to squeeze my fat ass into a swimsuit. It wasn’t a fun day for me at all.

June 2020…. where do I even start??? Ignoring the world around me that’s burning down. I’m actually doing well. I’ve gotten serious about losing ALL the weight over gained. Mentally I have great days and terrible days but I’m recovering faster than ever. I have an amazing support group and I feel strong. I’m remembering my self worth comes from me and I am not letting anyone’s hurtful actions ruin that again! I am doing this for me.

I’m going to be pushing myself to work on my business, I am hoping to start gaining some financial independence while being at home with the kids. We are homeschooling this upcoming year and I am excited for this new challenge. Getting out of my comfort zone to better my kids.

Do you ever reflect on your past and how it has brought you to where you are now? Do you still have hope for 2020, or have you given up??

Facebook Free

I have quit the Facebooks

I had been considering cutting Facebook out of my life for a few weeks and I have finally pulled the trigger, so to speak.

And by pulling the trigger, I mean I deleted it off my phone…. if I was sending a message I would insert a face-palming emoji here. It’s so funny how far my life has come. When I first started my social media journey I was fresh out of high school and using my parent’s computer (also that was Myspace). Now I have apps on my phone so I can check into any social media I want 100 times a day.

It has become an obsession, an addiction and it’s not healthy. I am guilty of posting things just for likes, or comments. I need the engagement, I crave it, I get disappointed if a post doesn’t receive a lot of attention.

I am almost 36 years old…. that should not be a factor in my day. I judge myself CONSTANTLY for being so shallow.

But I am taking a break, I doubt I’ll delete my account permanently. As I have already discovered my entire social life is organized through Facebook. Homeschooling events and my workout group are all on there.

My goal is to disengage, other than neccessary events, as long as possible. I want to track what I do with my time besides scrolling through memes and others lives.

Have you ever quit social media for awhile? Or do you not use social media?

Forgot to Add

Cherish

The last blog I posted were lessons of life.

Well I forgot one. Cherish.

I lost my Nanny in February. I honestly have not gotten over that. Now, my other grandmother and my final grandparent, has had a stroke and is being moved to hospice.

Both of My Grandmas
The last time I saw my Grandma

While I have spent a lot of time with my Nanny, I did not spend much time with my Grandma in adulthood. I am going to regret not spending time with her.

So my last piece of advice is cherish.

Cherish your loved ones, your children, parents, spouses, siblings, grandparents. They grow up, move away and unfortunately die.

Cherish the moments you have; the good, the bad and the ugly. They make up your life. Make the best of it!

How do you handle grief? Do you have anything you do to to help you deal with the pain?

Lessons of Life

I turn 36 this year, and I have been reflecting on the many things my life has taught me. I decided to compile a list of things I think are important and if you have any edits or things to add I would love to see them

Me, being myself

1. Let it Go. There is nothing in this life that is worth the energy it takes to hate. It pays to be the bigger person and just let it go.

2. Believe in karma. You get back what you put out. If you are going to be a lying, cheating, POS, you are going to get what is coming to you. Also, if you encounter one of these people in your life, know they are going to get theirs(ties in with Let it Go).

3. Drink water, exercise, get sunlight. Even if you are skinny, don’t take that for granted. Exercise to be strong. It will help you in the future.

4. Travel, make rash decisions, know you are not taking money to the grave. Find what makes you happy and hold onto it. I think a lot of misery is life comes from letting your passions fall by the wayside.

5. Be yourself. That is a multifaceted statement. Dress how you want to dress, get married, don’t get married, have kids, don’t have kids, only have one, prioritize work, or work to live. Live how you want to live and love who you want. But be respectful, don’t push your beliefs and don’t expect others to change theirs because of you.

6. Commit. Whatever you decide you are going to do, be committed. You are making decisions with your life, there are going to be highs and lows. If you are married, act married, you are part of a team and no longer the only player. If you are a parent, be involved in everything. If you adopt, buy or find a pet they are a part of your life now.

7. Forgive yourself. Quite simple, you are going to make mistakes. Own it, take responsibility and forgive yourself.

8. Have faith, hope, pray. I am not pushing religion on you, but in my experience life is better when you believe in something bigger than yourself. I have developed a more intimate relationship with God and I have been much happier.

9. Be the example. Someone is watching you, someone is following your lead. If you are a parent lead by example, read instead of watching tv, get outside so you aren’t living on your couch, love yourself and others, help others, forgive, know that not every action requires a response.

10. Laugh, cry, feel, love. Life is better when you truly live it. Put yourself out there, get hurt, fall in love, set goals and achieve them. Wish upon a star and work to attain that wish.

11. Be creative. Find a creative outlet in life, art, writing, music, build something. It just has to be for you, no one else