Marriage in the Time of Children

Being married with kids in an experience that is not for the faint of heart or those with a weak relationship. Kids change everything, they make more work, take money and focus and they cause more stress; that being said they are the most amazing addition to life.

But this post isn’t about kids today. This post is about being married successfully while raising kids and I say successfully on purpose. Anybody can be married and have kids but to stay together AND love your spouse after going through the terror of raising kidemons is a challenge.

kidemon— “kid demon” defined as child demon you created.

When Matt and I started dating I already had a failed marriage and 2 kids in my repertoire. My previous marriage failed for MANY reasons, but one of them was the burden of parenting. I learned a lot from my first marriage and I wanted to make sure that I prioritized my marriage this time around.

Flash forward to having a house, a baby, 2 older kids and a pandemic which leaves us in the house A LOT. We were struggling a little bit to keep the magic in our relationship.

I am going to talk about things that Matt and I do to make sure that our relationship is a priority on a budget(usually).

We watch A LOT of tv and movies together. We have OUR shows that we only watch together. We have introduced each other to shows that we have loved for years and we have discovered new TV shows together. We have been trying to get away from just movies though.

We go out on dates. This one is pretty obvious but can be a little pricey because lets face it, babysitting is expensive, as is going to the movies and or dinner, so we don’t do that very often. It is important to have one on one time with your spouse when you can’t be interrupted.

Here are couple of ideas for a few different things you can do together!

Hunt a Killer escape room in a box is a service that Matt and I subscribed to, you are literally a detective who has to solve a crime. It is so much fun and can be done with 2 people. You get a box every month for 6 months and they are all the same case.

There are actually date night subscriptions that you can subscribe to. We tried one by Crated with Love. It was super fun!

We also try new recipes together, I love cooking with my man! We have read books together, we take turns reading out loud.

If you go to Five Below they are many creative writing journals you can buy that ask fun questions, we actually play 20 questions with them. It is a cool way of getting to know your spouse.

We work out together. We have Beachbody on Demand and we put on a workout and give it our all. Matt likes to be ridiculous when he is working out and that makes me laugh(which also distracts me from the fact that I can’t breathe).

We are also listening to audiobooks together we actually just got The Horror Collection with our free monthly credit with Audible Premium Plus you can click the link for a free trial on Audible and get up to 2 free audiobooks. (we do get a referral bonus if you sign up for audible or purchase the book)

So those are some of the things that we do together. I think that dating your spouse is the most important thing to do and if you can’t always afford to get out of the house these are some great ideas to keep the magic alive!

Prime Day

Christmas shopping has started in our household. Thanks to Prime Day!!

I can’t go into what I bought my husband but I can talk about the kids. Well mostly Kenz benefited from Prime Day shopping.

She is already struggling between a girl and a young woman. Most of the items she requested were clothing, hair stuff and some craft items.

I know that she is super crafty and does not know how to entertain herself so I got her

I may return the squishies and get a different set

She is really into hair and makeup so I’ve been slowly building her supply

She also got some makeup brushes!

Tobias got a couple of items, I  am trying to get colorful and educational things for him.

My favorite items were some decor for around the house. I am slowly decorating the house and making it a home. My absolute FAVORITE things are pictures. I don’t know why but I love pictures of family and friends displayed on the walls!

So I got the 4 level picture hanger and 3 shelves to display wedding photos and mementos.  I only have the photos up so far.

I LOVE this

We got married at a vineyard so I covered the twine with dollar store vines and I think it looks fantastic!!

Some thoughts on Prime Day… I hate their organization or lack there of. It takes real time to scroll through their deals even within the categories they have them divided into. So if you are prime shopping, be prepared to scroll. I love how efficient they are, even with such a busy shopping day, I still got most of my items within 2 days. Lightning deals are actually my favorite, they have lower prices and you can put them on a watchlist to get notified when the sales are active. If you see something put it in your cart and buy it. I lost more than one item because I kept looking, they only let you keep the sale price for 15 minutes after it’s on your cart. If you keep track of how much you spend write the sale price down because once it’s gone, if you buy more than one item you don’t get to see the sale price again.

Well that’s it, be prepared to use these tips for Black Friday and Cyber Monday!!

May the odds be ever in your favor!!

Did you get anything good on Prime Day?